While all the FR guys are jumping for joy that they got one “for their side”…i.e. the Vancouver man released from prison after kids recanted abuse claims…the thing they really don’t point out (besides continued belief by some he did it) though is (from the son):
Matthew Spencer said his father had ruined the relationship with his mother and he had faults, “but none of them were molesting children.”
(Maybe it was so traumatic, the memories were repressed)…anyway. One for your side guys. What about the kid’s side though?
Geez, Joyce Murphy never got this much press when her story came out: Father got custody; mother’s sex abuse claims vindicated 6 years later when other children come forward
Here’s a now-adult survivor of abuse taking action against his father. Good for him…I hope this helps him heal. From Chicago Bar-Tender:
by Marian Wang on 06.30.09 |
The 20-year-old son of former Cook County Court Judge Lambros Kutrubis filed suit in court today, accusing his father of eight years of physical and emotional abuse.
In the 16-page complaint, John Kutrubis detailed his father’s initial abuse of his mother, Betty Stokes, leading up to an incident in 1999, when he threw her out of the house and cut off all contact between mother and son.
In the years following, from 1999 until 2007, Kutrubis claims his father ”on a regular, consistent basis, would become intoxicated and then begin physically striking Plaintiff about the head, back and chest, often without warning.”
He would also “remind Plaintiff that because of Defendant’s status as a Cook County Circuit Court Judge, Plaintiff was powerless to take any effective actions against Defendant’s abuse,” according to the complaint.
The complaint also lists specific incidents in 2000, 2002, 2004, 2005, 2006 and 2007 when Lambros Kutrubis was violent or sexually inappropriate with his son, including one incident in which he pushed the plaintiff out of a car and tried to run him over.
In 2007, the ex-judge was convicted of domestic battery against his son. An order of protection was issued, and the plaintiff has resided with his mother ever since.
For the years of physical, verbal, emotional and sexual abuse, he is suing his father for damages in excess of $50,000.
Our second award was received by V at 
J4M (nowq here comes Petunia’s brand of humor so please forgive me), did you not read page 1,023 rule number 2945 which effectively states:
Women and children do not matter to ABUSIVE men unless they can keep from doing something or hurt someone else?
I seem to have one of the rare hidden copies of this ABUSER RULES OF LAW handbooks in existence. Remind me to loan it to you one day
In other words, us poor poor widdle victims do not matter when a man is victimized. And even when it is discovered that we are telling the truth, that does not matter to abusers either because we are all just lying little beeyotches.
I know I know, I spoiled the day again….. I sorry, I will go back to my corner (please don’t get mad at me you ABUSER….. ooops I mean you poor little victimized men) cough gag snort PUKE!!!!!
Comment by Mz. Petunia Pigg — July 13, 2009 @ 10:37 pm
If you haven’t seen the article on this issue in the August issue of O Magazine, I highly recommend it (page 154).
Oprah funded some awesome investigative journalism that’s going to keep me busy for quite a long time.
Based on my own personal experience, I stridently believe a HUGE part of the problem is that there are way too many judges deciding DV cases who are beating the crap out of the folks at home. As an attorney, a law clerk, and live-in lover of a judge, I witnessed how deftly wealthy and powerful men can manipulate the legal system as an instrument of abuse.
Comment by Anne Caroline Drake — July 15, 2009 @ 3:53 pm
My child made at least a dozen independant claims of abuse and ran away from father’s several times, only to be returned. I did my best to advocate for my child, to ask questions and ask that something be done to protect my child..I was teh falsely accused of causing my child to make up these allegations. I was told that since I claim to have been abused by my ex husband, and since I am afraid of him, since I have a safety plan to deal with unsupervised exchanges that I am the real danger to my children. If not for me, my children would not have any fear of their father! I lsot all rights to my children and forced into supervised visitation for 6 months. During that time, my child continued to make allegations of abuse.
Who is listening to our children?
A Site For More Info: We, the Courageous Kids Network, are a growing group of young people, whose childhood was shattered by biased and inhumane court rulings, which forced us to live with our abusive parent, while restricting or sometimes completely eliminating contact with our loving and protective parent.
http://www.courageouskids.net/
Comment by evanlee21 — July 19, 2009 @ 10:17 pm
Halleluiah,
Glory be to God…
Thank you ladies… I saw the picture/portrayal of the woman ith the bleeding heart. I compare this agony to what Simeon and Anna, the Prophetess said to Mary, at his presentation: A knife will pierce your own heart, but anyone who has devoted their lives to a child and have it coldbloodidly, and maliciously plucked from your arms, destroying and shattering your family, a knife could not do that damage, my heart has been plucked from my body with a ragged, jagged fork, stab by stab, and then kicked and plumaged with my lifeless body, to be thrown into a huge
Comment by Michelle Watts — September 26, 2009 @ 11:42 am